Many midwives talk about the words we use surrounding pregnancy and birth. I am very sensitive to language and how things will be heard and received. I don't like to say "rupture of membranes" for example, it sounds sooo violent. Unless it's one of those burst all over the wall types of ROM. Then it would fit.
I never say I "delivered" someone's baby. I never say a mom delivered her baby either. I say the mom birthed and I caught, or the dad caught, or even better, SHE caught. I hate the term "incompetent cervix". I like Anne Frye's "loose cervix" much better. I also don't say I "did" someone's birth. I say attended. Although, I may say things like "I am not doing doula births in the hospital anymore". But I don't "Do" anyone in particular's birth. They do.
So I was talking with one of the new clients that found me through The Business of Being Born screening. We were discussing how shocked people are when you say you are planning a homebirth. Faerylady was saying that the best way to stop the argument would be to say, "Oh, I hadn't thought about that. Thanks so much for that perspective", when folks ask "isn't that dangerous?"
Then it came to me. We need to turn that on its head! The next time someone tells you that they are having their baby at the hospital, gasp in horror and surprise, and say with great alarm, "Isn't that dangerous???? I'm SO GLAD I was at home when my baby was born because if we had been in the hospital, I would have had to have a cesarean and me and my baby COULD HAVE DIED!" or "Wow, I really admire you. I could never be brave enough to do that."
If enough of us do it, hmmm.... it might make people think!