I swear no one is taught basic manners anymore.
Recently Preacherman was "outed" at work as being an expectant dad. Again. The stream of rude comments has been unbelievable. Of course, there is the marvelously original standby, "Don't you know what causes that?" DUH. Not only do we now what causes it, we like it! And of course, its corollary, "Was this PLANNED?" Are you asking me about my birth control usage? Would you like to know what position we were in when we did it? What other personal details about our marital life can I share with you?
Then there is, "Don't you have a TV?" Sure, we use it so the kids won't hear us when we're doing "what causes that." As if watching TV is so much more noble than being intimate as husband and wife.
Next up, "Is this the last one?"/"When are you gonna STOP?". Hmmmmm. If I get a dumb or ugly one, I guess.
How about this, "Have you seen those Duggars on TLC? Are you going to be just like them?" Sure, cuz I'm only 40 and I only have 8. Should be no problem to pop out 11 more in the next five or so years before menopause.
One co-worker, evidently not realizing Preacherman was standing right behind him in the room, was talking with another coworker about his next door neighbor who just had their sixth baby. He remarked, "I wish they would just knock his balls off."
Harsh words against someone just having a baby.
When I told my aunt (my mom's sister -- never married), she said, "Oh dear" as if I'd once again been arrested for public drunkenness. Other people have said, "I feel sorry for you." You feel sorry for me? I am overjoyed to have these great children, but I feel sorry for you because you're a rude idiot.
I've heard very rude comments about the Duggars as well. Especially now that Michelle has had a complicated pregnancy and a severely premature baby. Things like, "Well, the statistics finally caught up with them," and "I hope they learn from this to stop trusting God with their family size." Oh, because God never saw this one coming.
I just don't understand it. All our children are loved and cared for. They are smart, funny, educated, independent, individual little people. If we can provide for them and care for them, why should anyone else care how many we have? I've never asked my Aunt for anything for my kids. Why is she disappointed in me for having another baby?
I feel truly blessed and so thankful and happy to be pregnant again. I am enjoying this pregnancy so very much and really looking forward to holding this little guy in my arms. Yes, it's a BOY! Which brings me to the next rude comment, "I bet you're relieved you can stop now." Wait, wut? LOL. You think we had all these children just so we could get a certain sex? I must have been so disappointed with five girls in a row. Maybe I ought to have dropped them off at the fire station in a box when they came out with the wrong plumbing between their legs.
I'm just trying to understand why people feel the need to comment in such a completely rude and inappropriate way. I guess their mothers never taught them, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."
If you're reading this and you've ever said any of these offensive things to someone having ANOTHER baby, next time try, "Congratulations." And leave it at that.